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1. Working with children September 2013 2. Marie Louise Hoogveld 3. Better Care Network Netherlands Knowledge Experience COLLECT COMBINE ADVISE SHARE ACCESSABLE 4. The…
  • 1. Working with children September 2013
  • 2. Marie Louise Hoogveld
  • 3. Better Care Network Netherlands Knowledge Experience COLLECT COMBINE ADVISE SHARE ACCESSABLE
  • 4. The rights of the Child Admitting that the child, for the total en harmonic development of his personality, has to grow up in a family-environment in an atmosphere of happiness, love en comprehension.
  • 5. What is better care: our vision • Prevent that children will be separated of their parents by giving help to families . • Keep children in their own environment by help in their own family, community or neighborhood . • Bring children without parental care to family or foster family . • If a children home is the best option : small groups and stable care takers • If Possible re-unite children with parents or other family members . • Protect the rights of children and keep their interest always above the rights of volunteers and the organization.
  • 6. Activities • Networkmeetings • Workinggroups • Website • E-Newsletter • Goodpractices • Library for (inter)nationaldocuments • Training for PI • PROJECT: Volunteerwork
  • 7. What do volonteers know about: • Handle children who are abused. • Handle children who do not live with their parents. • Handle children who have lived on the street. • Effects of stress on the development of children. • ????????
  • 8. • Interviews withvolonteers and and thosewho are involvedwiththem. • Interviews with the targetgroup and receivingorganizations. • Do’s and Dont’slist. • Leafletfor volonteers. Research Project
  • 9. News from abroad
  • 10. Silent heros or Naïvedabblers
  • 11. Kenya South Africa Peru
  • 12. KINDEREN
  • 13. ORGANISATIES Additionalhelp Attention Flexible Creative Male volonteers
  • 14. Silent Heroes Dabblers
  • 15. • Leaflet for volonteers • Training Developing: • Leaflet for sending organizations • Guidelines for receiving organizations Products
  • 16. What must a volonteer know know? • Codes of conducts • Which tasks do I perform and which I don’t ? • How do I handle the children in the project? • Why do children behave like they do?
  • 17. Attachment What’s that? • A child is born helpless • How can we take care of them, that they survive en they will develop themselves? • /multimedia/videos/three_core_concepts/
  • 18. Attachment and Bondage • “There is no such thing as a baby. There is only a mother and child couple” (Winnicott 1958) • “ Children survive by attachment ” (Bowlby) Attachment is a surviving strategy ! CHILD PARENT ATTACHMENTBONDING
  • 19. • Nearly all children are attached at the age of 7 months, mostly to a small group of people . How does that work ?
  • 20. SAFE Attachment Baby plays and reacts on the caretaker Baby rests Baby experiences discomfort and hunger Baby protests mostly by crying Baby calms down and trusts the caretaker Caretaker reacts mostly by picking Up, hugging and taking care etc.
  • 21. The caretaker says and thinks … _You are special – I Think you are important ! – I always think about you – I love you
  • 22. Normal attachment • • Baby: knows already soon difference between different faces. • 3 months: reacts on every human contact and is OK with a stranger. The person you don’t see does not exist. • 6-7 months: special attachment to one or two people is feeling unhappy until that person comes back • 10 tot 18 months: Intensive attachment Separation anxiety Is crying until a special person comes back What you don’t see does still exist: crying is helpful • 2½ until 3 years: stable attached so can explore the environment • 3 until 5 years: can save themselves in the outside worldand feels safe in new situations .
  • 23. ATTACHMENT: HOW THIS OCCURS Pint of view from the child Needs Disconfort Needs Fulfilled Quiet Trust Safety Bonding
  • 24. BONDING: HOW THIS OCCURS Point of view from the adult Parent gives positive attention Self Confidence Self Esteem Child reacts positive
  • 25. What happens if you can’t trust the caretakers or you cannot predict their behaviour? If children experience stress ? or There are all the time new primary caretakers like volunteers for 3 weeks , placement students for 2 months ? pts/toxic_stress/
  • 26. = UNSAFE BONDING Baby rests Baby playsalone and stops withreactions Baby gives up the confidence and develops anger Caretakerreactsevery time different orangry Baby crieslouder Caretaker does not react or reacts not regularly Baby protests and cries Babydoes notfeelwell
  • 27. • Safe: the child trust thatcaretakerswillreact on his needs • Fearful: The child is unsureif the caretakerswillreact on his needs • Avoiding : The childbelievesthat the caretakerswillreactwithrefusal. • Desorganized: The child is is in confusionabout the reactions of the caretakers . 29 4 ways of attachment
  • 28. Core beliefs of children Safe •I: I amgoodwanted, important worthwile to beloved . •caretakers : Theyreact well on myneeds , they are sensitive to betrusted and stable and caring •Life : the world is safe andit is worthtwileto live: Unsafe •I: ik am bad , notwanted, without hope and notworthwile to beloved. •Caretakers : Theydon’tunderstandmyneeds , not sensitive, not to betrusted, theycanharmyou. •Life: The world is unsafe, life is painful and a burden. 30
  • 29. Attachment problems Behaviour •Attacking or defending •Destructive •LieingandsteelingAgres sive , abusing •Hyperactive •Selfdestructive •Cruel to animals •Irresponsible •Making fires Emotions •Intense fears and bad moods •Sad, depressiveand without hope • Unstable •Afraid for everything •Quickly irritated • Wrong reaction on events . 31
  • 30. Attachment problems Thougts • Is thinking bad abouthimself, about relations andabout life in general , •Doesnotunderstandcaus eandconsequence • Attention andlearningproblems . Relations • No trust •Bossy •Manipulative •Doesnotgive or receiveaffection •Doesnot make anydifferencebetweenpeople , is running toeverybody •Changingfriendsall the time •Blamesotherpeopleforownmi stakesandproblems 32
  • 31. Attchment problems Physically •bad hygiene •Don’twant to betouched. •Bed peeing and pantspooping •manyaccidents •High pain threshold •Depressive or hyperactive Moral/ Spiritual • No selfconfidence •nocompassion. •Does notunderstand the differencebetweengood and bad. •Identificationwith the evil and dark side of life 33
  • 32. • Independence and autonomy. • Can cope with problems. • Can regulate impulses and feelings . • Can build up stable relationships with caretakers , parents and other guiding persons. • Social behavior in different situations . • Trust intimacy and affection . • Belief in himself and society . • Empathy compassion . • Good behavior and good performance in education • Attachment with own children Safely attached children are doing better :
  • 33. “We are herefortwo weeks in the children home and there is onechildwhat does notreactonothers Marjadecided to take care of the child, she is the whole dage busywith her and the childstayswith her the whole time It is Marvelous to seethat the child starts to feel more safe
  • 34. “We are leaving time is up. When we are drivingaway we hear the littlechildcrieing: “Mami, mami". Howdifficult is that.”
  • 35. vulnerable children Repeated separation Aids orphantourism: “A threat to youngchildren in residential care” (2010)
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