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MODERN ROMANCE ANYONE? Whilst reading through one of the greatest works by that old bard William Shakespeare namely, Romeo and Juliet, I came across a verse that got my mind enthused. Sample this: “O, she doth teach the torches to burn bright! It seems she hangs upon the cheek of night; Like a rich jewel in an Ethiope's ear; Beauty too rich for use, for earth too dear! ” This was that loveable yet tragic Romeo conferring upon the elegant Juliet such niceties albeit with a little bit of prolixity
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  MODERN ROMANCE ANYONE?  Whilst reading through one of the greatest works by that old bard William Shakespeare namely,Romeo and Juliet, I came across a verse that got my mind enthused. Sample this: “O , she doth teachthe torches to burn bright! It seems she hangs upon the cheek of night; Like a rich jewel in anEthiope's ear; Beauty too rich for use, for earth too dear! ” This was that loveable yet tragic Romeo conferring upon the elegant Juliet such niceties albeit with a little bit of prolixity. This got methinking, where did romance go to?   Whenever I have the misfortune of conversing with my friends of the opposite gender, all they everbanter about is how men are jerks and how insensitive they are. I don’t know how much sensitivity they would prefer on a man; is a man who cries when watching those bothersome excuses forentertainment called soap operas too sensitive or just the right amount of sensitive? Or one whoswoons at baby pictures, too much? What I will agree with them on, though, is that the days of theforgotten era when men took their time to string up poetry and attempt to woo a lady are farbehind us. We are in the era where relationships are entered into as fast as they are abandoned.This is the modern era where friendships are easily broken with the click of a mouse button; thanksto Zuckerberg. Where relationship statuses can go from single to married to complicated and back tosingle all in the span of a few hours. As is with every new technology, online dating comes with alitany of blights.Online dating was seen as the next step for relationships. Gone were the days when you had toeither wait for your parents to find you the girl who was suited to their likings, or when you had tosuffer through a blind date that your friends set up for you because-in their words- “the two of youwould hit it off”; or the days when you could stumble upon your better half after having one too many at the old drinking well. In this era, there are sites that offer you the dream soul mate you arelooking for, all within the comfort of your home. This is what everyone had been waiting for. A chance to view someone’s profile before taking that leap of faith into that dark and murky abyss called relationship.Possible candidates are viewed, interviewed and reviewed before any decision is reached.Algorithms are set up to filter every profile and come up with a list that will then be gone over with afine tooth comb. Some even have virtual dates with avatars and everything before eventuallymeeting the person on the other end. This is the future.Online sites in the US are growing at a rate of 70% each year as more and more people seek thatneeded sense of security that family and relationships can offer. However, are they that beneficial?According to Alain B adiou, one of France’s greatest living philosophers; online dating sites destroyour most cherished romantic ideal, namely love. He argues that these sites are now beginning tosound more like car insurance companies; offering you a fully comp policy that eliminates anyrisk of you being out of pocket or suffering any personal upset.To say that love is what we need in life would be outlandish; but the substitute that onlinedating is offering is something to be looked at carefully. We have more women ‘awakening’, asthey put it, to the realisation that sexual gratification isn’t exclusively for the male gender. The only problem with this is that our sisters tend to forget a tiny thing; in light of desperate women,  there will always be predators waiting for that opportune moment to strike. And this is whatseems to be plaguing online dating sites. They may have started out with the best of intentions,but as time passed, they metamorphosed into sites where sex could be offered willy-nillywithout the usual constraints of commitment. And boy are the men loving this particularsituation. Even as the multitude of women who are trying to ‘do it like the boys’ keeps increasing; the sadtruth is that they are setting themselves up for a fall. The female gender is born to be inherentlycaring, that is why even after the amorous activities most may still want to cuddle. It is akin towanting   freedom and commitment, guilt-free sex without emotional entanglements and atender cuddle. This is impractical, and I think the greater group of online daters has found thisout.In his 2003 book Liquid Love, Bauman wrote that we liquid moderns cannot commit torelationships and have few kinship ties. We incessantly have to use our skills, wits anddedication to create provisional bonds that are loose enough to stop suffocation, but tightenough to give a needed sense of security now that the traditional sources of solace (family,career, loving relationships) are less reliable than ever. And online dating offers just suchchances for us to have fast and furious sexual relationships in which commitment is a no-no andyet quantity and quality can be positively rather than inversely related.Much as online dating sites have made leaps by offering you an array of options that hitherto wouldn’t have been open to you; the sad truth is that it hasn’t done much to expand ourunderstanding of the enigma that is often referred to as love. In fact, it has confused even more. This is owing to the fact that online daters aren’t exactly looking to have a long term relationship; all they want is instant gratification. This is the generation now; where we may be studs in our online profiles but duds when it gets to a real date. As my friend always says, “ The internet offers you a chance to be who you’ve always wanted to be.”  The next time you are tapping away at your keyboard fibbing about yourself for your onlineprofile in an attempt to get that hot mate you badly want, ponder about what you arepresenting yourself as. You have been reduced to a mere description of your specifications likesome humdrum digital camera with the hopes that you match someone else’s search. So whynot grab that opportunity and be the best camera anyone can get.
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